February 7, 2007


Dear CODEPINKer,

The war in Iraq is breaking our bank, our bodies, and our hearts! With Valentine's Day approaching, we'd like to share with you the heart-breaking love letter that military wife Oriana Futrell wrote to her husband in Iraq.

Hello My Love,

Valentine's Day is rapidly approaching, and with its impending arrival I am filled with mixed emotions. We have discussed how like Christmas, New Years, and our birthdays, Valentine's Day is yet another holiday we will not celebrate. Yet another holiday we will pretend isn't happening, promising one another we will make up for it next year when you will hopefully be home.

Walking through the grocery store, I see the stacks of chocolates and people waiting in the checkout lines, arms full with red rose bouquets to be given to loved ones. I am instantly filled with sadness, not for a lack of chocolates and roses, yet rather the lack of your presence. It has been eight months since I last saw your beautiful smile and kissed you goodbye. A day that is meant to celebrate people's love and companionship is for me a day of intense loneliness. The only highlight will be crossing it off my calendar just before bed. How many more months to go?

I wish people could understand what I am going through. At times, I am filled with intense anger at the realization that so many people really don't get it. "Didn't you know what you were getting yourself into when you married a soldier?" they ask me. "No, I really didn't," is all I can say in response. I took no class on sleepless nights, nightmares, and anxiety attacks. No one explained to me the incredibly debilitating fear I would experience with the knowledge that my dearest love is in harm's way and no one sat me down to explain how intensely my heart would break at the mere thought of another Valentine's Day alone.
In addition to my sadness and anger, I find myself incredibly frustrated and perplexed as I ask myself for what is all this suffering? The Iraqis are worse off every day, and we are less safe here at home. America's global reputation and credibility lay in ruin, while countless Iraqis and Americans are dead.

The fact that with the arrival and passing of Valentine's Day I am brought that much closer to the time at which we will be reunited is what gets me through. Though the day remains uncertain, I eagerly look forward to the time at which I will once again be in your arms planting soft kisses all over your face. How badly I want you home now. How desperately I want this nightmare to be over. Stay safe, my love.

With all my heart,

Oriana Futrell

Next Wednesday, on Valentine's Day, we invite you to visit your representative's local office with the "Stop Funding War" message. You can deliver our fair trade chocolate medallions with the message "Be Sweet--Stop Funding the War!", and take them a copy of Oriana's letter. Ask your representative to consider all those who are spending Valentine's Day alone because their loved ones are at war.

If you're frustrated by your rep's lacks of action to defund the war, take a step further and put your heart on the line. Join the Occupation Project, an 8-week campaign we just launched to "occupy" the offices of representatives who insist on funding the war. So far we've occupied the offices of Senators John McCain and Hillary Clinton. Local occupations are being planned in 20 districts around the country from Fairbanks, Alaska to Huntsville, Alabama. Be sure to check out our creative ideas to help you stage your own occupation.

For Oriana and all those with loved ones off at war,
Dana, Farida, Gael, Gayle, Jodie, Liz, Medea, Nancy, Patricia, Rae, Samantha, and Sonia

P.S.

  • Check our on-line store for peaceful and playful Valentines Day gifts for the ones you love.

  • Eve Ensler and V-Day joined CODEPINK at our women's convergence in Washington last week. Let's join V-Day in their ongoing fight to end violence against women and reclaim peace by celebrating the V words- Victory, Valentine, and Vagina. Click here to find a performance of the Vagina Monologues in your community.

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